starting my second year in college after the summer break. Somehow, I managed
to avoid dating in the first year so that I could focus on my studies and get
accustomed to living the college life. Now that I’m going into my sophomore
year, I’m ready to get out and start dating again. The only problem is that I
feel completely out of the loop. Do you have any tips or advice?
It can be
difficult to avoid the dating scene when you’re in college, so great work
focusing on your studies. After all, you are attending college to learn
and that should be your main focus. But you’re also entitled to have a life,
and now that you’re settled in, you’ll probably be able to handle dating pretty
There are a
few things I would recommend. For starters, it’s probably best to avoid dating
anyone who lives in your building. If things go sour and your relationship ends
badly, you’ll be forced to see each other on a regular basis. That may be
awkward and frustrating.
If you do
find someone that you’re really interested in and you start dating exclusively,
don’t disconnect from the rest of the world. It’s all too easy, to just focus
all of your time and energy on your significant other, but you’ll lose friends
along the way – friends who would have been there for you long after your
me to my next point: don’t take college romances so seriously. It’s great if
you find the one while you’re in college, but it’s a pretty rare thing. Enjoy your time. Date around. Make
friends. Make the most of your time – while still being responsible and
studying – before you’re forced out into the real world. You have plenty of
time to find your forever partner after you graduate.
said, if you do find someone that you have a deep connection with and
the relationship makes you happy, don’t risk it on college hook-ups. Yes,
college is about having fun and experimenting, but don’t ruin a potentially
serious relationship for the sake of playing the field.
If it’s been
a while since you dated, you may be concerned about having sex. There’s a good
chance that you’ll reach a point where you at least think about having sex with
one your dates. If you haven’t been intimate with someone in a while, that
first time may not be what you expect. I don’t imagine that you’ll need Viagra to get
into the mood, but you may want to take things slow. Always make sure that
you’re practicing safe sex even if you and your partner are exclusive.
We could go
on and on about dating advice, but here’s the most important thing to take
away: don’t date if you’re not into anyone. Don’t just date people for the sake
of dating people. If you’re not into anyone, just stay single until you find
someone who is worth your time. It’s okay not to date.