Economy falls, slackers rise
Not too long ago, I actually thought slacker dudes had gone the way of the ’90s. But now that the nation is deep in the throes of a hardcore recession, Jay, Silent Bob and Ethan Hawke are back.
I can’t tell you how many complaints I’ve been getting from friends and acquaintances over the last few months about guys who not only don’t pay for anything, but don’t seem to give a shit either.
And I’m not talking about the dudes who got laid off and just can’t find work no matter how aggressively they search.
I’m referring to the Romeos who live off their ladies, spending each and every day snoozing till noon, playing video games and pondering the meaning of life, while their old ladies juggle work, school, domestic duties and perhaps even child care.
But before I get caught up in a rant that goes nowhere, let me say that I’m also aware that nothing is ever just black or white, all or nothing.
There are infinite shades of gray, and I do believe that these guys are not the only ones at fault.
While I do hope these dudes appreciate all that their girls do for them, it is also important for me to keep in mind that it’s the choice of these chicks to put up with this.
I admit, if I were a guy, I’d consider it a pretty sweet deal.
“But why buy the cow, when you can milk it for free?” my mom never fails to ask. And why buy the cow and pay for its upkeep, when it’ll pay for yours instead?
In that regard, I don’t know if feminism actually did any of us females any good. Sure, we got more of a variety of professional and academic choices to choose from, but when it comes to dating and mating, it seems like all bets are off.
Females born and raised in the ’80s grew up surrounded by conflicting messages that persist to this day. Visions of breadwinning “Prince Charmings” compete side by side with images of Superwomen who can do it all.
The majority of my friends and acquaintances who are finding themselves in this Superwoman situation are really confused, and I can’t say that I blame them.
Gone are the days of “Leave It to Beaver,” when gender roles and their respective responsibilities were clearly defined; since feminism ushered sexual equality through the front door, nothing has ever been the same.
And it’s been a mixed blessing, because these friends of mine have inadvertently taken on both roles, that of homemaker and breadwinner.
I forget which “Sex and the City” character it was who said, “We’re becoming the men we wanted to marry,” but that just about sums it up.
But this goes beyond lazy guys and their lenient girlfriends.
If anything, it has made me realize that gender roles aside, it can’t hurt women to learn and know how to take care of themselves, let alone somebody else.
Nevertheless, I would hope that if a girl finds herself both bringing home the bacon and frying it up for dinner, that she’s doing it because she wants to, not because she feels incomplete without someone who may or may not be in it for the long haul.
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An unattractive feminist? There’s a shock. God forbid a man make any type of generalization about a woman and its misogyny. The hypocrisy is blatant considering feminists can engage in male bashing.
An unattractive feminist? There’s a shock. God forbid a man make any type of generalization about a woman and its misogyny. The hypocrisy is blatant considering feminists can engage in male bashing.
I completely agree! I went on a blind date date a month ago with a guy that allowed the bill to sit on the table for 30 minutes before I picked it up and said, “lets handle this.” And yes, he let me pay for the whole thing. I have no problem paying half….it’s not fair to expect him to pick up the whole thing…..but I had to pay for his too!?! Needless to say, that was the last time I went out with him and I am still pissed at my friend that set it up. Oh and he called….why wouldnt he! Loser. What happened to the romance guys!?!?!?!
I completely agree! I went on a blind date date a month ago with a guy that allowed the bill to sit on the table for 30 minutes before I picked it up and said, “lets handle this.” And yes, he let me pay for the whole thing. I have no problem paying half….it’s not fair to expect him to pick up the whole thing…..but I had to pay for his too!?! Needless to say, that was the last time I went out with him and I am still pissed at my friend that set it up. Oh and he called….why wouldnt he! Loser. What happened to the romance guys!?!?!?!
Man, it’s your own fault if you can’t scare your man into doing whatever the hell you want him to do. It’s up to you to draw the line on what you tolerate from these jokers.
Man, it’s your own fault if you can’t scare your man into doing whatever the hell you want him to do. It’s up to you to draw the line on what you tolerate from these jokers.
well I wouldn’t say slacker is the right word, but I get what you are saying. On the other hand though, people ( guys and girls) go through rough times, and sometimes a guy needs a little help to. If you get married one day, you help each other, sometimes one helps the other out more at times, and vise versa. There is nothing wrong with a woman picking up the entire tab for a date. Don’t judge a guy just because he can’t afford to pick up the tab at the moment. If he is a user well thats a different story, but plenty of women allow men to pay for the entire tab, and we don’t call them slackers.
well I wouldn’t say slacker is the right word, but I get what you are saying. On the other hand though, people ( guys and girls) go through rough times, and sometimes a guy needs a little help to. If you get married one day, you help each other, sometimes one helps the other out more at times, and vise versa. There is nothing wrong with a woman picking up the entire tab for a date. Don’t judge a guy just because he can’t afford to pick up the tab at the moment. If he is a user well thats a different story, but plenty of women allow men to pay for the entire tab, and we don’t call them slackers.
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